Imagine for a second. Your first date with your new flame is in a job interview setting. How would it go? Daniel Audritt has made a very nice and funny skit about this. Movie can be found under this text. I also used Dutch subtitles for you. This has been done using Adobe Premiere CC 2017.
In reality, of course we do not do something like that. But imagine that we did do something like this. You would then be aware of the curriculum beforehand. Who does not want a relationship with someone where the luggage is not that heavy. You can then set up a selection procedure. After which you eventually make a choice between two people.
If you are a member of several Facebook pages, you also see that relational situations are shared by many women. Sometimes you read the most terrible stories after which the person (who shares it anonymously) asks for tips. You can think of abuse, cheating, partners who gamble or financial problems. It might be easy for an outsider to say that you can run away like that. But is that usually the right solution? Maybe not. Everyone has a baggage. Being in a relationship you can ensure that both persons can reinforce each other and the weight of that baggage will (hopefully) decrease. A relationship without problems and jealousy do not exist. You always have to try to find the middle way. But if it really does not work after several attempts, then leaving him may be the best option.